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I must be a heathen…
note: I wrote this a few days ago and just didn't have access to post it to my LJ until now. So, there's plenty more for me to talk about when i get the time (friday night spent visiting my family; Saturday riding Tanja's horse for the first time, introducing Tanja to my siblings - parents had to leave before we got to the party, D&D and El Patron with my friends, drinks/pool/darts at Fox and Hound with Tanja and the meetup group; lazy Sunday well spent; Monday's pain in the ass all day long meeting...)yeah, lots to talk about. But it will have to wait until i have more time.

I must be a heathen…because I seriously do not get this shit!

So, I've mentioned that my father has prostate cancer and he was scheduled for a CT scan and a bone scan this week, and then would see the doctor today about the results of those scans. Well, I just have to go ahead and mention that we got good news at that appointment. Both scans came back showing no spreading of the cancer. So it appears to be contained within the prostate. That means that caught it fairly early and they plan to cut it right out. Sure its still pretty serious surgery, but the odds are damn good with the robotic surgery they are planning. That is absolutely great news!!! :)

The thing I don't understand, as usual, has to do with my mother. This afternoon before the doctor's appointment she came to me asking for advice. What you may ask was she wanting advice on? Well, if she should tell my father to find another doctor. That got me concerned because it made me think that she knew something bad about the doctor or whatever. I guess in her eyes, she did at that. Her problem with him is…she doesn't know if he's a CHRISTIAN!?!

WTF? I mean seriously. Who fucking cares? I'm sorry, but the last time I checked they don't pay one bit of attention to your religion when you are going to school, and I doubt medical school is any different. So, how the hell could the question of him being a Christian have any bearing on whether or not he can do the surgery?

I don't have one freaking clue where she gets this shit from, but she was telling all about these studies that show that doctor's who pray with their patients before a surgery have a 50% better success record. I don't know where she heard about the studies, or who the hell conducted them, or anything else. I just know that they have to be utter bullshit because the very premise of this is so asinine!

The real kicker to me is that she doesn't even know for a fact that the guy is not a Christian. She's just assuming so because he is Indian…. I've known for a while that my parents can be a bit prejudiced, it may even have something to do with why I stopped letting friends come over to my house because I used to hang out with all kinds of people. Race just doesn't matter to me one bit. It's not something they are that vocal about. All they have ever really done is to complain a lot. And will occasionally blame Memphis' woes on its demographics and such.

So, I've always thought of them having just a mild prejudice. But this seems so much more than that when she doesn't care one bit about what his credentials are or how good he is at his job. All she sees is the color of his skin and doesn't want him to do the surgery. That is absolutely fucking insane. And I told her that (after some stunned silence). Sure she agreed with me that it was wrong of her to think that way, but I could tell that she just couldn't stop feeling that it would be wrong to have a possible non-Christian do the surgery. At which point I told her flat out, if the doctor does something to make her think he's incompetent she should speak to my father about it, but otherwise to shut the hell up because the doctor's religion or race is no reason at all to think he is any less a doctor!

Apparently, she listened to me (or my father put a stop to the nonsense), because my father has an appointment to have the surgery done by this doctor in two months time. She should pray all she wants for the surgery to go well, but she should also pray for forgiveness for being so judgmental. I'm sorry, but I just don't have any patience for nonsense like that.

Happy Things: The "kissing couple." HAHAHAHAHA, apparently Tanja and I have a reputation now….Last night we went to visit with her horse, Tiana, again and we stopped by the same Subway shop as previously, where the church group was doing their video scavenger hunt and filmed us kissing. Well, as soon as we walked in, the guy working behind the counter greeted us with a loud "hey, it's the kissing couple!" We had to laugh at that. The one customer in the place gave us weird looks at that, but we ignore them. We joked around with both the guys working there as we were getting our sub. And of course, we had to reinact the scene as we inched closer to the exact spot it happened before. It was just in good fun, but the one kid had to warn us that if the owners were in there they might have something to say if they saw us doing that.